好朋友

2023年5月15日

我写关于心理学的世界。得到它!盖蒂的新奇新鲜的浪漫可以令人振奋,让我们想要花费我们所有的时间与我们的合作伙伴。花所有的时间在一起,做你通常不会做的事能感觉到轻松和令人兴奋的在蜜月阶段。然而,当最初的高水平,我们意识到生存的生活我们需要的不仅仅是我们的合作伙伴。我们需要朋友,我们经常把生活在我们的主要关系的影子。好的友谊发挥关键作用不仅在我们的幸福,也在我们的爱情生活。如果你发现自己想知道你上次花时间远离你的伴侣,这里有三个提醒你为什么需要现在就开始。# 1。他们满足需要,合伙人不能我们倾向于选择一个合作伙伴,它可以塑造我们的生活和我们同甘共苦。 But the idea of being ‘someone’s everything’ — i.e., sharing every interest, like, and dislike — is an outdated, overly-romanticized, and unhealthy notion. Since it is emotionally and physically impossible for a human to be able to satisfy their partner’s every need, it is unfair to expect it in the first place. In fact, experts might even suggest that this expectation is indicative of an anxiously-attached individual that struggles with setting boundaries and therefore expects their world of their partner. MORE FOR YOU Research explains that social relationships outside of a romantic one, like quality friendships, contribute to higher life satisfaction. Spending time talking about serious or frivolous matters, sharing meals, and even exploring entertainment avenues have been shown to reduce stress levels and increase well being. Most importantly, a strong social network reduces the overwhelming burden of being another person’s whole life and gives them the space, time, and autonomy they need. #2. They can help salvage your relationship Where there is love, there is hurt. Having conflicts in a relationship is natural, but resolving them can be a challenge, especially when emotions run high. This isn’t always possible without the support of others. Arguments can get ugly and out of hand, sometimes to the extent that the only sign you see is the exit. To open more doors, one needs a fresh pair of eyes and perspective that only people close to you can provide. A study published in Social Psychological and Personality Science states that during rifts between couples where the relationship’s foundation is threatened, individuals seek out friends (new or old) and family to feel more secure and connected. The authors of the study, led by Elizabeth Keneski, state, “These close others serve as important sources of relationship support, providing a shoulder to cry on during times of relationship strain as well as serving as a sounding board to process relationship events.” A close friend’s company can help you stay calm in the eye of the storm and approach the situation with a more collected state of mind, increasing the chances of reconciliation. #3. They save you from yourself, literally and metaphorically Prior to spending time with your significant other, there was a different order of life that you probably followed, one where you might have had more time for hobbies, passions, and perhaps trips and outings with friends. It’s important to remember that your partner fell in love with who you were before they were a big part of your life, too. Maintaining those pre-existing relationships and hobbies is essential to keeping that identity intact. Most importantly, research in Health Economics shows that frequent interactions with friends has a positive impact on our health and helps cut down on physically taxing habits like smoking, potentially extending our lifespan. Friends help keep us accountable and prevent us from losing ourselves in the relationship bubble, allowing us to maintain our individuality. This not only benefits us as individuals but can enhance the relationship itself as it allows both partners to maintain a sense of independence and self-fulfillment. Conclusion It’s okay for a romantic partner to take precedence in your life. However, we must do it without undermining the value of friendships and other relationships. Each connection has its own value and role in providing love, safety, and comfort. Remember to cherish your friendships alongside your romantic relationship, and strive for a well-rounded life.