Overdick

2021年7月29日

认为这样的人通常我们根据Overdick。“一方面很容易放弃责任;另一方面这种想法的缺点——这是一个大陷阱——你最终忽略你自己的潜在的影响情况,以及发展自己的机会。”How to get out of the thinking trap Question the extent to which you've contributed to a situation. Do you always get handed pointless, thankless tasks at work? Well, had you ever stopped to think that, perhaps, you failed to mention that these tasks are a waste of time? Have you ever asked to do something else? If not, then why aren't you thinking about what you can do to change the situation? If you can't solve the problem alone, you can also get help — for example from a colleague, by talking to your manager or, in extreme cases, by talking to HR. Remember to say to yourself "There's always something I can do" or to ask yourself "How can I do something to change this?" before you start pointing fingers. Kidding yourself when it comes to over-indulgence Telling yourself the things that distract you from your goals are actually good for you is obviously an ineffective approach. Shutterstock Sometimes it's okay to indulge a little, but it can become problematic when you delude yourself into thinking something that isn't all that good for you is somehow beneficial: it can prevent you from achieving your goals in the longterm. "It's good not to focus on goals and achievements constantly but, in the long run, continually indulging and focusing on things that distract you from what matters are actually good for you is obviously an ineffective approach," said the psychologist. "Unfortunately, as humans, we function in such a way that we want short term gratification but aren't always prepared for the long term negative consequences. Take gambling addiction or food binges as an example: we're looking for quick and immediate pleasure and, at the time, prefer to ignore the long-term negative consequences, like financial loss and weight gain." How to get out of the thinking trap "I think the same logic can be applied here as for those who victimize themselves — you just need a bit of a kick up the behind," said Overdick. In general, it's good to question yourself, to be critical, and to ask again and again what longterm drawbacks you may experience by seeking short term enjoyment. In that way, you can stop to consider what to do about it. "It's better to intervene with yourself as soon as possible." Useful affirmations such as "I can stand up for my own goals" may help you to stop and consider what needs to be done. Practical tips to avoid thinking traps You can challenge your own thinking traps by finding a "sparring partner" to support you in changing your behavior, using their own experience and knowledge. Shutterstock Thinking traps wouldn't be so awful if we were able to recognize them and nip them in the bud immediately. Unfortunately, it's usually only the case that we recognize the symptoms once they're really getting out of hand. One thing you can do to challenge your own thinking traps is to look for a "sparring partner", which is basically someone who supports you using their own experience and knowledge — particularly any knowledge and experience that's relevant to you. "This can be anyone from a family member or partner to a good friend or colleague, and it can also be a coach or a therapist," said Overdick, "as long as it isn't someone who'll be easily satisfied with your first answer." Another method is to write "counter-thoughts" on a small card and place them somewhere where you'll look often during the day. It could be your wallet, your desk, or the front door — or you can also use a symbolic object. "In psychology, we refer to these objects as 'anchors' — a new way of thinking 'anchored' into a postcard, a shell from a nice beach or a pretty piece of jewelry. The object itself is less important — it's more important that you put it in a place where it will always actively remind you to think of the alternative." This is a great technique for those thoughts that resurface when you least expect them to, according to Overdick, "because they hit you even harder". It's especially important that you're reminded over and over again: you don't adopt a new way of thinking overnight simply by flipping a switch. It takes a lot of repetition to get rid of your old thinking patterns. "It's like learning to play the piano — it's not enough just to understand how a piece works; you need to consolidate what you learn through repetition and practice." Read the original article on Business Insider Deutschland . Copyright 2021. This post originally appeared on Business Insider Deutschland and has been translated from German. Follow Business Insider Deutschland on Twitter . Newsletter